I read an excellent article this morning by J. B. Buffington. I’m not that familiar with the author, but this article is full of excellent advice and was posted by David Cloud at Way of Life Literature.
Here’s a link to the original article & some excerpts:
I’ve heard people say, “Everything went along alright until my children became teenagers and then something happened.” But I beg your pardon, that’s not the case. Most of it happened before five years old. That’s why I exhort mothers, “Don’t let anybody be a baby sitter of your children except you and other godly people.” Those first five years, attitudes, security, goals, and many other things are already developed, and they will come into full blossom in teenage years. A child is like a computer. What you put in comes out. You can put something into a computer and pray that something else will come out, but it won’t happen.
The article is entitled “How to Lose Your Child Before He is Five Years Old.” Here are the main points:
1. Use worldly counsel instead of God’s Word about rearing children.
2. Consider children a burden, a blight, a curse, a robber of your time and pleasure.
3. Make your possessions more important than your children; don’t make the home a place of fun.
4. Compare one child unfavorable with another.
5. Make a federal case out of them being children.
6. Threaten constantly and discipline ineffectively.
7. Belittle them.
8. When they do wrong, talk about how they are killing you and ruining your reputation.
9. Husbands and wives quarrel in front of the children.
10. When you discipline a child, argue about it.
11. Brag on their talents but not their character, and constantly show them off in public.
12. Turn on the television or radio or stereo and let worldly music play constantly.
13. Teach them to be afraid.
14. Don’t take time to listen to them and talk with them.
15. Be a duel personality.
16. Criticize the preacher in front of them.
17. Mother, teach your little girl rebellion.
18. Dad, treat your wife disrespectfully.
19. Dad, teach your son to be wimpy.
20. Teach your children that you don’t trust them.
This would be a great article to read together with your spouse & discuss. What are you waiting for? Here’s a link to the original article. Read the whole thing!